When we look at the different relationships that are described in Ephesians 5:22 -6:9 we notice that there are 3 particular types of
relationships; Intimate (marriage); Honoring (Parent/child); and
Obedient (Master/Servant). These three relationships make-up 3
important aspects of our lives that if we are doing well in our
relationship with Christ, it will translate well into our relationships with others.
1) In a marriage relationship, it is not about control it is about Love, do
we Love Christ? If so what are the things that we do in this
relationship with Christ? There is a carnal side to human relationships but
this is not what Paul is driving at. Paul refers to the way that we love one
another as Christ has loved us. When we can Love Christ in the same
way that He loves us, we can do the same to others.
2) In a Parent and Child relationship, there is absolute trust. We rely on
God our Father to provide for our every need, knowing and having peace
in the understanding that He wants only good things for us and would
never seek to belittle us nor provoke us to evil. Likewise in our
relationships with our parents and those we acknowledge as parental
figures in our lives, we must honor them in the same way with the same
trust that we have in God our Father. Our parents are the stewards that
God has entrusted us to for a season, we must trust that they will carry
out their assignment well.
3) Lastly, in an Obedient relationship, we are completely submissive to
our Lord. We have full confidence that God will not mistreat us and that
He will give us work that will produce pleasure in His eyes and He will
reward us with His approval and love. When we serve our bosses and
those who hold authority over us as we serve the Lord we meet this
relationship aspect that Paul talks about. Being submissive isn’t about
power like the world around us would lead us to believe; being
submissive is more like Obedience when we work in that Obedience and
submissiveness as unto the Lord.