I’m not a big fan of cliches, but a few of them hold true and timeless. My favorite cliche is “Actions speak louder than words;” the best way to get a point across is to act out the message you want to convey. On the other hand, there is no cliche more overused and under-done than “I love you;” many people use this phrase loosely and conditionally. I believe that by combining the two cliches, both will be more meaningful and valuable in every relationship, whether it be between a family member, friend, or significant other. Acting out love means much more than expressing it with words. Don’t just speak love; do love.
One of my favorite songs to play on guitar is “More Than Words” by Extreme. It is not only a fun song to play, but its message is very insightful. In the first verse it says “It’s not that I want you not to say [I love you], but if you only knew how easy it would be to show me how you feel.” There are two truths in this line: there is nothing wrong with speaking love, but it is simple and necessary to show your love as well. Acting out love can be as easy as remaining present in someone’s life during their times of need to listen to their problems and offer advice. The song goes wrong, though, by failing to mention that doing love with more than words can be difficult at times. It can mean denying your own wants and needs in order to cater to the needs of someone else. The times when doing love is most difficult are the times when your love means the most and comes across the clearest.
1 Corinthians 13 is more or less the instruction manual for how to love. The first verse of this chapter says “If I speak in the tongues of men and angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.” As is clear in Scripture, love is about much more than what is said; it is about doing and having the actions and qualities listed in the rest of the chapter. Having patience and kindness; lacking enviousness, boastfulness, arrogance, and rudeness; not insisting on your own way, being irritable and resentful, or rejoicing with wrongdoing; and rejoicing with the truth are the things necessary to act out love. Doing love means bearing all things, believing all things, hoping in all things, and enduring all things.