During the summer, it can be hard to keep up with friends from school. Beyond the “I miss you” and “what are you up to”, it can be hard to find conversation when your lives are so totally and completely different. It’s also a struggle in general to be far away from the people you’ve so recently grown to love, and who have become such a big part of everyday life. So here are a few things that I have found helpful so far this summer when it comes to keeping up with friends.
Two words: Skype dates. Make it a point to sit down and have a “face to face” conversation with friends. This can be over Skype, Oovoo, Google Plus, Face Time, or whichever video chat strikes your fancy. Having a long talk with a friend (or several friends) over video chat always leaves me feeling refreshed and encouraged.
Secondly, road trips. Trips are a bit more demanding than video chat, but they are definitely worth it. The coolest thing I’ve done so far this summer, is visit a friend in Jersey and see the stuff she tells me about all the time– her home, her high school, her family.
Finally, pray for people. This has been a big part of my summer so far as I attempt to stay emotionally and spiritually connected to the people I miss. One thing that works for me is writing the names of my friends on my mirror, or on post-it notes at work, and it reminds me to pray for them. Along with that, never hesitate to shoot a quick text to a friend to let them know you’re praying for them.
The reason I write about this is that I’ve realized how easy it is for me to disconnect myself from people. The above may seem like really simple and obvious tips for staying in touch, but I’ve come to realize how important they really are. It’s easy for me to come home, and sink back into my previous routine including social circles. There’s nothing wrong with hanging out with old friends, but I definitely don’t want to lose my college friends along the way. This became clear to me when my boss went away this weekend. He drove down to Tennessee for a few days to attend the wedding of a fellow Nyack alum. During the weekend, he met up with several of his old friends from college. This made an impact on me because I recognized these people’s names because he had talked about them. These people made an obvious impact on his life, and he made the effort to keep in touch over the years. That’s what I want; I love these people so much, and I want to make sure they remain a part of my life for the years to come.